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A taste of the art of hosting

February 5, 2008 By Art of Harvesting, Art of Hosting, Conversation, Facilitation, Leadership, Learning, Open Space, World Cafe 3 Comments

If you would like a flavour of what happens at workshops on the Art of Hosting, here are some links to give you a sense of things.

  • Audio from the Art of Hosting workshop in southern Indiana last fall. These files were made by Jeneal King, one of the participants who took an active role in harvesting the event. Lots to listen to here. Best I think to download and listen off line.   Update: No longer up as of August 12, 2008.
  • Ravi Tangri in Nova Scotia has been making a number of videos about Art of Hosting teachings on the chaordic stepping stones, harvesting, world cafe and the art of calling. Browse ArtOfHostingTV.net for more.
  • A video from my mate Thomas Ufer of the meta harvest from a recent Art of Hosting workshop in Brazil. This path that he is walking on has notable quotes from the whole three days. Participants walked the path, reflecting on ther experience and then contributed a further thought on the meaning of the experience. THis is a really creative way of find higher and higher levels of collective meaning making.
  • Andy Himes made a short video of a number of us playing with candles and music at last week’s gathering on Whidbey Island. In the evenings there is often creative play and chilling out that we get into. When the weather is nice we often build a fire outside and sit around telling stories of hosting. On Whidbey we did it inside.

This just gives you a sense of the diversity of the experience. If you are interested in attending an Art of Hosting workshop contact me, or check in at the website to see if there is one coming up near where you live.

Personal practices of conversation

February 5, 2008 By Art of Hosting, Conversation, Practice 6 Comments

Dave Pollard sees skillful conversation as a key to the kinds of communities he is trying to create.   In this post he revisits his ideas about personal practices for being a good conversationalist.   These are great:

  • Tell the other person something you’re passionate about, and why. Tell them passionately.
  • Tell them something they should know that they don’t, preferably as a story, and make it clear why it’s important.
  • Tell them about a possibility you’ve imagined. A real possibility, not just an ideal, a wish or a dream.
  • Tell them a different way of thinking about something, one that sheds new light on what it means.
  • Don’t argue. Just don’t.
  • In all of the above, make sure what you tell is actionable. But don’t tell them what to do.
  • And above all, keep it short, clear, and simple or entertaining. A conversation is a mutual gift.

Principles for flowing finances

February 4, 2008 By Collaboration, Practice

I work with lots of colleagues and in general the flow of money is pretty straightforward.   With some fiends though, we often sit with each other and think about what else we could do with the economy.   Being clear about money is a life practice – in North American culture money holds all kinds of traps for energy between people.

My friend Tenneson Woolf has just blogged on this and he and his colleagues from a recent workshop worked these principles:

  • Whereas the old model for these decisions is more transactional, the new model is energetic. It is not about who did what work. It is about how we collectively invite, create, hold a field to work in before, during, and after the event.
  • As with design, work on logistics with open heart, enaged conversation, and clarity of action — beautiful.
  • Agree to this as a conversation each time, not a formula, to listen with attention and act with love.

And in a coincidental post, Jack Ricchiuto offers this wisdom:

Interesting chat yesterday with my friend Jean Russell of nurturegirl.net and the new blog, thriveability.net. She suggests that thriving communities practice a sense of “currency” that embraces both economic and social capital. Currency is anything that “flows.” A community’s flow experience then can include all forms of purchase, barter, and gifts.

What’s interesting is that anonymous monetary currency doesn’t build community. It only, as Jean suggests, “outsources connections.” When I trade my time helping someone start a wiki website for their business for their time doing plumbing or editing for me, a relationship builds. When I hand someone ten dollars for an item at Target or Whole Foods, no relationship builds in that transaction. In a monetary currency economy, flow occurs without the building of relationship. In a gift and barter economy, relationship is formed.

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Johnnie tagged me

January 31, 2008 By Being 6 Comments

Johnnie Moore tagged me to reveal eight things about myself you probably didn’t know and then tag eight others…alright then.

  • Since 1987 I have worked with the I Ching as a way to understand the pattern language of change, using it to sharpen my seeing about all kinds of situations.   I don’t use it as a fortune telling device, rather as a user’s manual to change. It is one of my oldest practices, although   by no means a daily one.
  • Since January 1986 I have kept written journals which have recorded 22 years of living.   They are less diaries and more just notebooks of many shapes and sizes.   I have only lost one, spanning a period of nine months or so during which a close friend was murdered.   It was in a bag I had stolen at a gig.
  • All eight of my great-grandparents were born in Canada, and most of my 16 great-great-grandparents were born here too.   For a country of immigrants, and considering that most of my ancestry is European, that is a remarkable stat.   In 2001 only 4% of all Canadians had all four of their grandparents born here.   My wife is South African by birth, so my kids and grandkids will be firmly in the other 96%.
  • I have only owned two cars my entire life, but too many bicycles to count.   Because I grew up in Toronto, I didn’t get my driver’s license until I was 24.
  • I wear a signet ring that has a phoenix on it.   It was given to me by my paternal grandfather in 1989 when I turned 21.   He mused that it was a crest that had been in our family since the 1300s, and was a common symbol that Christian crusaders adopted from their time wrecking havoc in the middle east.
  • My first job for which I was paid was working in a cemetery.   During high school I earned money lifeguarding, working at a self-serve gas station and selling tropical fish at AAA Aquarum on Yonge Street in the days before the big box pets stores did in the little guys.   The owner of that shop died from AIDS-related pnuemonia in 1986.   He was the first person I knew who had HIV.
  • I was a teenage stamp collector.
  • Although I have met many bloggers in my life after reading their blogs, Johnnie was the first one to offer me a safe harbour and a spare bed to crash on for a couple of days when I was travelling through London last summer. It was a generous gesture born out of a uniquely 21st century trust relationship.   Out of gratitude for   imposing on an otherwise perfectly good weekend of getting lost in WoW, I have responded to this tag…Thanks again, mate!

So that’s it.   I’m leaving Regina tomorrow for Calgary and Seattle to do a little work with the Quinault Nation and catch up with Harrison Owen, who is breezing through town.   To pass on the meme I’m tagging the last eight bloggers I’ve met face to face with: Tenneson, Ashley, Christie, Jeff, Andy, James, Nancy, and Andre.

Cold. Very very cold.

January 30, 2008 By Conversation, Facilitation, First Nations, Open Space, Travel

Workshop

Regina, Saskatchewan

I love it here…big open prairie sky meets wide expanse of earth. And over it all, the air is chilled, so cold that I actually succumbed to the spit test. I spat on the sidewalk and immediately poked at my saliva with my boot. It had instantly turned to ice powder. The thermometer in my ride’s car said -41. By this afternoon it had warmed up to -28, which is the current temperature. If the warming trend continues, it’s supposed to be a balmy -14 by tomorrow afternoon. That is a 27 degree difference: the difference between a freezing fall day and a too hot summer afternoon.

I can’t imagine how people survived out here in the old days. Getting to the fire, as Chistina Baldwin says, is indeed a life and death situation.

In a training workshop today with some lovely community leaders and tomorrow we run a day long Open Space for the community. Exploring hosting and getting ready to harvest leadership for community change.