The set up for the weekly staff meeting at the Alaska Humanities Forum offices in Anchorage.
We spent the day yesterday with our colleagues at the Alaska Humanities Forum (AKHF) preparing for the Art of Hosting that begins this morning. AKHF is an organization that has long embraced the Art of Hosting as a way of operating both their internal organizational functions and their relationship and gatherings with their partners and programs. All over the world there are organizations like this, not always obvious or seen by the global Art of Hosting community, because they labour away on their own work. But until the pandemic every staff member of this organization was sent south for an Art of Hosting once they were hired on. It has been six years since that happened so we are here to partly fulfill that need and to work with several of their partners.
What’s great about this is Kameron Perez-Verdia is on our team. As President and CEO of the organization, he is embodies the practices of participatory leadership which he first learned at a Shambala Institute Authentic Leadership in Action workshop back in 2008 with Toke, Monica and myself. Kameron was raised in the whaling village of Utqiagvik, which is the most northerly point in Alaska. We talked a lot yesterday about the kinds of community gatherings that take place there when the whale hunting crews bring in humpbacks for the community. We talked about the importance of presences and check ins in meetings and how that grounded start to important work is a critical aspect of every part of day to day life, from whaling to a staff meeting in Anchorage.
Kameron and I were talking about the balance between chaos and order yesterday as we were exploring how we could teach the four-fold practice together and he shared with me a term that Yupik elders had taught him about dynamic balance: Yuluni pitallkeqtuglluni, which translates roughly as “just enough to live a good life.” It refers to the amount of connection that we need in a gathering or community, or the amount of structure in a meeting or a process to bring about a feeling of family (tuglluni means family) but allows for agency. We talked about “balance” which in the Yupik world is not a stable equilibrium between two competing forces, but a dynamic, constantly sensed state that is reposnsive to the context.
Perhaps this will be come a theme of our work in the next three days, but it’s a helpful way to contextualize the practices of the Art of Hosting: presence, participation, hosting and co-creating. Each of these are context dependant, which is why they are practices. Bringing just enough to live a good life is the art that implicit in the name of the practice “Art of Hosting.” While many folks seek a stable, always applicable tool or way of doing things, the art of hosting or participatory leadership is about the application of a world of practice to an ever changing context. In being sensitive to what is needed, and how to do it depending on conditions, we constantly create the right balancing moment between too much and not enough, just enough to live a good life.
We start in 2 hours.
The “Art of Hosting” is a term that has taken on a life of its own in the world of participatory facilitation and leadership. It came into use some 25 years ago to describe the fundamental practice at the heart of participatory facilitation and it has become a bit of a cipher. I’ve had a couple of conversations in the last few weeks that reminded me that it’s probably time to again bring a bit of clarity – but not too much! – to how the term is used. Here are three things it is and two things it is not.
A pattern of practice
First and foremost the Art of Hosting is an art. Of hosting conversations that matter. The practice is summed up with what we call “the four fold practice” which is derived from the idea that good conversations are made better by having participants be present, participate, be hosted in a way that invites everyone to play a role and to co-create. It’s called hosting to signal that it is a form of facilitation that does not involve itself in the midst of the conversations, but rather seeks to create the conditions for conversations to take place. As a simple practice, it invites facilitators to create the conditions for effective dialogic containers rather than . As a leadership practice, it invites participatory leaders to practice self-hosting, participation, hosting others and co-creation. And because the practice is so context dependant, it is literally a practice. One is constantly practicing, responding, learning and reflecting as a facilitator and a leader who practices the art of hosting.
A community of practice
The Art of Hosting is also a name given to the global community of practice, a loosely connected and chaordic network of practitioners and global stewards. For more than 25 years folks on every continent and in hundreds of different contexts have connected themselves to the Art of Hosting community to share learning, contribute thinking and explore participatory practice through a common language and inquiry. The stewards are experienced practitioners who stay connected locally and regionally and help organize trainings and maintain a global coherence to the community. The global community has an online home at www.artofhosting.org and an active Facebook page with more than 16,000 members.
A workshop
All over the world experienced practitioners offer Art of Hosting workshops giving folks the opportunity to learn and engage with the art of participatory facilitation. Sometimes, especially where the workshop is focused more on community and organizational leadership, it is called “The Art of Participatory Leadership.” While these workshops can offer differ significantly in terms of material offered and pedagogy, in general you will leave these learning experiences having learned about:
- the four-fold practice of hosting and harvesting participatory process;
- complexity concepts, such as the chaordic path or the Cynefin framework;
- Frameworks for planning and facilitating participatory gatherings, such art the chaordic stepping stones of the Diamond of Participation;
- Exposure and practice of facilitation methods such as Open Space Technology, World Cafe, Circle, ProAction Cafe, Collective Story Harvest and others.
- Self-hosting and inner practice work
You’ll find upcoming workshops listed on the Art of Hosting website. As I write there are workshops offered in Zimbabwe, India, France, Switzerland, Canada, Croatia, Netherlands, Brazil and the US. These workshops are taught primarily by local stewards and practitioners and can be very different expressions of the same basic material. It’s always fun to travel around and see how folks are teaching and practicing the art of hosting in different cultural and organizational contexts.
Two things it isn’t
It’s not an organiztion. The Art of Hosting is not a company you hire to work for you. It isn’t an organization or a certification scheme. It is a chaordic community that supports learning and practice worldwide
It is not a method. Sometimes people confuse the Art of Hosting with a method like World Cafe. That’s understandable as many people are introduced to participatory methods in Art of Hosting workshops, but there is no Art of Hosting method per se. Neither is the World Cafe, for example, a method of the Art of Hosting. The World Cafe is a method although, as Amy points out below, it is not MERELY a method. The Art of Hosting is a practice that can help facilitators better use that method. It’s like the different between music theory and music performance, or the study of poetics and the practice of writing poetry . One is the theory and the other is the practice, and together the Art of Hosting – the four fold practice – is praxis: the unification of theory and practice towards more participation.
The Art of Hosting is one way we point to what is sometimes spoken of as “the central garden” which is a common space of inquiry held by people who are interested to learn about how participatory ways of being together can help shape a world that values diversity, difference, and multiple perspectives. Thanks to my friend Amy Lenzo, who in the comments, points this out so eloquently.
Does all of this seem only half-way clear? Well, that ambiguity is something of a feature of this whole world. It allows and invites people to bring different expressions and experience to this global inquiry while also having some shared language and concepts that help us to learn together and evolve in the service of groups of people who are trying to build or reclaim spaces of humanity, dignity and sustainability. It continues to be an essential community of friends and colleagues for my work, for which I am constantly grateful.
Back in 2015, Caitlin, Tim Merry, Tuesday Rivera, and I were travelling around the world offering a workshop called “Art of Hosting Beyond the Basics,” in which the four of us were sharing our extensions of work that we had developed emerging out of the common root of the Art of Hosting community and our practices. It was a rich experiment, and we met really interesting folks in Canada, the US and the UK. It started some longer-term partnerships and friendships, and from time to time, I ran into folks who were at those workshops.
I met one of them last week again. Dr. Nomusa Mngoma is a health researcher at Queen’s University, where I was last Monday delivering a day-long workshop on the Art of Hosting basics for the Centre for Community Engagement and Social Change. Nomusa saw the invitation and showed up. When I met her, I had a vague recollection of meeting her previously, but I couldn’t place it. We both thought for a while, and of course, it was at our Beyond the Basics retreat in Kingston in 2015, the last time I had taught in that city.
We caught up and went through the day, and as we were leaving, Nomusa handed me her business card, which wasn’t for her job at Queen’s. It was as the owner and instructor of Dansani Dance Company, a local business specializing in Latin Dance and Ballroom Dance lessons. The moment she haded me the card I had a flash of recollection.
“Wait!” I said. “Didn’t you propose this idea as a topic in the Pro Action Cafe at Beyond the Basics?”
She thought for a minute and, with delight, realized that she had indeed! “That conversation changed my life,” she said.
Wow. I love that.
Later, I was talking with my friend Michelle Searle, who brought me to Queen’s, and she wondered how Nomusa had received the invitation to our event. The workshop was open, but the invitation was only sent out through Queen’s and to a few partners. I told Michelle that Nomusa is an Adjunct Assistant Professor and Health Research Scientist. Michelle expressed delighted surprise because, although she didn’t know Dr. Mngoma in that capacity, apparently, Nomusa is famous in Kingston for leading free outdoor dance classes downtown in the summer!
Nine years from a template full of notes in a workshop to joy unleashed in a community and one happy and fulfilled human being.
Over the past 15 years I have worked with churches, faith communities and faith-based social justice movements using the Art of Hosting and participatory leadership. In many ways these organizations have been at the forefront of social and demographic changes, getting older while holding a fierce commitment to addressing issues of injustice in the world. Working with faith leaders and faith-based movements allows us to have a different conversation about participatory leadership, community work and spirit. The Art of Hosting seems to wake up the kind of collaboration that faith communities long for, even as they confront existential questions within their own organizations or in the larger world.
In November in Toronto, a very special team of us is hosting an Art of Participatory Leadership training aimed at leaders in faith based contexts and those whoa re engaged in social justice work, specifically anti-poverty and inclusion. This training, while it is directed at folks who are working in these contexts, is open and applicable to others as well, whose work needs active involvement and co-creation with the communities they serve. Non-profits and social change movement workers are welcome and will both learn and add much to the conversations we are involved in.
My co-hosts on this team are Ben Wolf and Violetta Ilkiw. Ben is an old friend who has been a community organizer, communicator, journalist and Unitarian congregational leader for years. He is currently working with Thomas Hübl and bringing trauma informed practices into his work.
Likewise I’ve known and admired Violetta’s work for years. She specializes in conflict transformation, decision-making and deep community-led change work, including working with youth-led initiatives in the philanthropic sector.
In this work we have been invited by Sam Cooper, a minister in the Toronto area who has been devoted to setting up an Anti-Poverty Commission in Mississauga, based very much on the citizen-led initiatives in Scotland (like this one). We are also invited into this work by Pablo Kim Sun who specializes in Intercultural work and inclusion and who works for the Presbyterian Church in Canada.
There are creative tuition options for this training and we want to make it as open and accessible to anyone who resonates with this call, whether you are working in churches or other faith-based organizations, or involved in deep community led change work. Consider joining us. There are spaces open and we’d love to see you there.
Tenneson, Caitlin and I are running a three day leadership course for MacEwan University here in Edmonton. It starts tomorrow and we are having a great conversation at Remedy chai cafe about why meetings matter for folks studying leadership. Here are some of the insights.
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Meetings are microcosms for leadership practice. They are places to encounter one’s own leadership gifts and leadership challenges. What you learn when you host a meeting is very much related to how you lead a team or and organization or a board. Meetings are a place to confront what’s real and meaningful. They contain all of the patterns the give life or deplete it in organizations. They are places of immediate practice because they can be places of both pain and healing and so they demand attention and consideration.
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We are after teaching how to host conversations that matter. “Matter” because they more things matter to people the more engaged people are in the work. The number one question I get asked about is “how to I get people to engage?” And the answer is “make the work meaningful to them.” If your work is less meaningful than what folks have going on in the rest of their lives they won’t engage. Sometimes you don’t get to work with everyone you want to. But start with those who see why the work matters.
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If you want good effort to be sustained you need to build connection between people and connection to the work. Sustainability requires connection. Stewardship (or good governance) requires a long term and generative relationship to what is being cared for: people, work, place…Once you know that your future and wellbeing is tied up in the sustainability and health of the people and work and places that sustain you, sustainability and stewardship becomes a way of being.
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What needs time in a meeting? Einstein’s famous quite about using 55 minutes of a hour to come up with the right question is good. But I might use that time to build resilient relationships instead. Because then if we don’t figure out the question, or the answer, we will at least have to commitment to keep looking.
(Pssst. You can build resilience while you are finding the question, by the way).
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One of my teachers Birgitt Williams teaches that there is always grief in the room. To which I would add “there is always trauma and always inequity in the room too.” And so hosting rooms is also a space to host restoration and repair and dignity. It’s not therapy. It’s not even healing, per se. It’s just leaving things better than you found them, as much as possible.
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Be thoughtful in how you host, even if it’s a short conversation. The absence of design is a kind of design choice. It often defaults to “the way we always do things” and that isn’t always a good thing. So be thoughtful. Add something slightly different. Take away something you don’t need.