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Category Archives "Being"

A Pablo Neruda poem for Caitlin

April 2, 2009 By Chris Corrigan Being One Comment

When I read this Neruda poem, I thought of my wife.

Sonnet XVII

I don’t love you as if you were the salt-rose, topaz

or arrow of carnations that propagate fire:

I love you as certain dark things are loved,

secretly, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that doesn’t bloom and carries

hidden within itself the light of those flowers,

and thanks to your love, darkly in my body

lives the dense fragrance that rises from the earth.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,

I love you simply, without problems or pride:

I love you in this way because I don’t know any other way of loving

but this, in which there is no I or you,

so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand,

so intimate that when I fall asleep it is your eyes that close.

via Neruda.

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Harrison Owen reflects on who we are in the universe

March 6, 2009 By Chris Corrigan Being

To some it may seem that we are simply cast about like so much cosmic flotsam and jetsam – and on a day when the partner of the moment is dark chaos that is surely the experience. But partners change and the dance moves on – light creative order enters our experience. How wonderful it might be to hold that moment for ever. . .

The ecstacy is not in the moment,

But in its passage.

To hold the moment is to destroy it –

The ending of the dance.

I think we are all dancers who live fully when we dance. There is no abstract right, wrong or perfect way to dance, for each dance is perfectly what it is. It is not about “shoulds,” “musts,” or “oughts,” but only the dance in this, and every, present moment. We are called to the dance and in the dance we experience ourselves as a loving whole – at one with ourselves and all that surrounds us.

via Work-In-Progress: Job’s Problem.

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Fear is relative

March 3, 2009 By Chris Corrigan Being, Facilitation, Leadership, Learning, Stories, Unschooling 7 Comments

Last week I was working with an interesting group of 60 Aboriginal folks who work within the Canadian Forces and the department of National Defense, providing advice and support on Aboriginal issues within the military and civilian systems.   We ran two half days in Open Space to work on emerging issues and action plans.

In an interesting side conversation, I spoke with a career soldier about fear.   This man, one of the support staff for the gathering, had worked for a couple of decades as a corporal, mostly working as a mechanic on trucks.   We got into an interesting conversation about fear.   He said to me that he could never do what I do, walking into a circle and speaking to a large group of people.   I expressed some surprise at this – after all I was talking to a trained soldier.   I asked him if he had ever been in combat and experienced fear.   He replied that he had been on a peacekeeping mission in Israel and that at one point in a threatening situtaion he had pointed a loaded gun at someone and awaited the order to fire, but he didn’t feel any fear at all.

We decided that it was first of all all about the stories you tell yourselves and second of all about training and practice.   The fear of public speaking – fear that would paralyse even a soldier – is a fear that is borne from a history of equating public speaking with a performance.   In school for example we are taught that public speaking is something to be judged rather than a skill to be learned.   Imagine if we gave grades for tying a shoelace, or using a toilet or eating food.   If we performed these important but mundane tasks with the expectation of reward or punishment, conditional on someone else’s judgement about them, having nothing to do with the final result, we might well develop fear and aversion to these things too.

The fact is that the fear of public speaking – glossophobia – is widespread and this makes me think it has something to do with public schooling.   Our training leaves us in a place of competence or fear, and, as much of the training in social skills is undertaken implicitly in school (including deference to authority, conditional self-esteem and a proclivity to answers and judgement rather than question and curiosity) we absorb school’s teaching about these things without knowing where they came from.   Certainly when I grew up – and I was a little younger than this soldier I was speaking with – speaking in school was generally either a gradable part of reporting on an assignment or was competitive, as in debating, a practice that was prevalent in my academic high school that sent many young people into competitive speaking careers as lawyers and business people.     If you were no good at this form of speaking, the results of being judged on your attempts to get a point across were often humiliating.   You lost, or you skulked away with the knowledge that people thought you sucked.

In contrast, my friend’s ability to find himself relatively fearless in an armed confrontation was a result of his military training, which, when it comes to combat, is all aimed having a soldier perform exactly as my friend had – calmly and coolly, especially in a peacekeeping role.

These days, in teaching people how to do facilitation, I am increasingly leaving the tools and techniques aside and instead building in practices of noticing and cultivating fearlessness.   When you can walk into a circle fearlessly, you can effectively and magically open space.   If you harbour fear about yourself or your abilities, it is hard to get the space open and enter into a trusting relationship with a group of people. Once you can do that, you can use any tool effectively, but the key capacity is not knowing the tool, it is knowing yourself.

How do you teach or learn fearlessness?

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Fearlessness and authenticity

January 27, 2009 By Chris Corrigan Being, Practice 3 Comments

Fearless

This is my son Finn, one of my teachers, facing huge waves at Ka’anapali on Maui last week.   He plays in these waves with no fear at all.   Waves that are two or three times taller than he is simply wash over him.   He knows what to do, how to dive under the wave, how to swim in and out of currents, how to watch and read the sea, and his fear becomes play.   He taught himself to bodysurf.

Fear does funny things to us.   It makes us change sizes, for example.   When we are confronted with a situation that creates fear, we puff ourselves up to seem bigger than we are, or we shrink away to hide and not be noticed.   We do this by boasting, by telling stories that makes us seem more competent, more brave, more experienced than we are, or by engaging in self-deprecating behaviour that lessens our accomplishments, lowers expectations, diminshes our offerings.

It can seem like a challenge sometimes to just be the size that you really are, but I think when we are that size, comfortable in our skin and fearless in the moment, we become completely authentic.

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Presencing absence

January 2, 2009 By Chris Corrigan Being One Comment

When we are hard on ourselves, or hard on others, isn’t it interesting how it is those small moments that define character?   Most of the time we are fine, everything is alright, things are calm.   Even in war, soldiers spend most of their time in tedious inactivity punctuated by bursts of frightening violence.   Cities are not in a constant state of crime.   Governments work perfectly fine most of the time.   It is the small aberrations that we notice and these then colour everything.

When you become aware of how much fear you don’t have, how much violence ISN’T happening, how much struggle ISN’T going on, you can take on fear, violence and struggle in context without a story that your whole life is like that.   It’s like becoming aware of how much space there is inside an atom or between stars.

Presence is fine.   Presencing absence is awe inspiring.   We are mostly made of space.

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