Recently Karen Sella posted a request to the OSLIST among other places for books that are about being human Today she posted the list.
Here is your new life reading program!
Playing and Reality, D. W. Winnicott
Maturational Processes and the Facilitating Environment, D,W. Winnicott
Sexual Personae: A History of the feminine from Nefertiti to Emily Dickinson, Camille Paglia
The World of Pooh, A.A. Milne
The Wind in the Willows, Kenneth Graham
The Spell of the Sensuous, David Abrams
The Synthesis of Yoga, Sri Aurobindo, The Inner Journey Home: Soul’s Realization of the Unity of Reality, A.H. Almaas, Coming to Our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World through Mindfulness, Jon Kabat Zin, Mind in Life: Biology, Phenomenology, and the Sciences of Mind, Evan Thompson, The Blank Slate: The Modern Denial of Human Nature, Steven Pinker, The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran, and The Velveteen Rabbit, Margery Williams…to name just a few.
Finally, for those of you who enquired, some (and there are so very many) favorite books about being human that I recommend are:
Living Beyond the End of the World, Margaret Swedish
The Shock Doctrine, Naomi Klein
Ornament of the World, Maria Rosa Menocal
Cultural Creatives, Paul Ray
The Rise of the Creative Class, Richard Florida
Breaking Ranks, Ronit Chacham
Better, Atul Gawand
The Hidden Connections, Fritjof Capra
Sketching User Experience, Bill Buxton
The Miners of Windber: the Struggles for New Miners for Unionization, Mildred Beik
Burning All Illusions, David Edwards, 1995 (Also published under the Title “Dare to be Human”)
Jonathan Livingstone Seagull, Richard Bach
Illusions, Richard Bach
One, Richard Bach
Holdfast: At Home in the Natural World, Kathleen Dean Moore
The Spell of the Sensuous, David Abram
The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, Jean-Dominique Bauby
Coming to Life, Polly Berrien Berends
Pilgrim at Tinker Creek, Annie Dillard
All Sickness is Homesickness, Dianne Connelly
Imagining Argentina, Thornton
Prophetic Imagination, Brueggeman
Crucial Conversations
The Way of the Peaceful Warrior (series), Dan Millman
Books, tapes, online et al: anything by Esther and Jerry Hicks
The Alchemist, Paulo Coehlo
Creed for the Third Millennium, Colleen McCullough
Water for Elephants, Sara Gruen
”Everything I have read by Parker Palmer and Frederick Buechner, nonfiction and fiction alike”
How We Became Human, Joy Harjo
Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restoring Hope to the Future, Margaret Wheatley
The Sparrow, Mary Doria Russell
Bring Me the Rhinoceros, John Tarrant
The Secret, Rhonda Byrne
A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle
Loving What Is, Byron Katie
The Road Less Traveled, M. Scott Peck
Ishmael, Daniel Quinn
The Alchemist, Paolo Coelho
Women Who Run with Wolves, Clarissa Pinkola Estes
Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle
Turning to One Another, Meg Wheatley
Grace and Grit, Ken Wilber and Treya Killam Wilber
poetry of Neruda and Rumi
Coming Back to Life, Joanna Macy
On Being Human, Ashley Montague
Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl
I Am That, Nisargadatta Maharaj
Metta: The Practice of Loving Kindness, Nagabodhi
Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu
Life is a Verb, Patti Digh
Care of the Soul, Thomas Moore
The Chalice and the Blade, Riane Eisler
The Occult Significance of Forgiveness, Sergei Prokofiev.
Where the Wild Things Are, Maurice Sendak
The Handmaid’s Tale, Margaret Atwood
The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Klay, Michael Chabon
Man on the Threshold, Bernard Lievegoed (and anything else this guy ever wrote)
Nineteen Eighty Four, George Orwell
Freedom in Exile: The Autobiography of the Dalai Lama of Tibet, His Holiness the Dalai Lama
Winnie-the-Pooh, A. A. Milne
Le Petit Prince, Saint-Exupery (The Little Prince in English)
Bible
Spiral Dynamics, Don Beck & Chris Cowan
Courage to Be, Paul Tillich
Winning Through Enlightenment : Mastery of Life, Volume I, Ron Smothermon
New and Selected Poems, Mary Oliver
Letters to a Young Poet, Rainer Maria Rilke
I and Thou, Martin Buber
Ishmael, Daniel Quinn
Thou Shalt Not Be Aware, Alice Miller (also, The Drama of the Gifted Child)
If This Is a Man, Primo Levi (in United State published as Survival in Auschwitz)
The History of Childhood, Lloyd deMause
The Emotional Life of Nations, Lloyd deMause
In a Different Voice, Carol Gilligan
Island, Aldous Huxley
Beloved, Toni Morrison
Tree of Knowledge, Huberto Maturana
Eternal Echoes, John O’ Donohue
Philosophy in a New Key: A Study in the Symbolism of Reason, Rite, and Art, Suzanne Langer
Harold and the Purple Crayon, Crockett Johnson
The Fourfold Way, Angeles Arrien
Harmful Advice [Vrednye Sovety], Grigorii Oster (Oster is described as a children’s writer read by primarily by adults. His contrarian rhymes and poetry caused a huge uproar when he came out in print during Perestroika. Sadly, last time I checked he was not available in English”he also has a line of “Harmful Textbooks”)
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So it seems that we are having a federal election here in Canada.
I’m a little interested in democracy and as I\ve had two phone calls today, I thought I might as well keep some notes here about my experience with the local candidates.
Today John Weston’s comapaign called me. Weston is running for the Conservatives here in West Vancouver – Sunshine Coast – Sea to Sky Country. So I’ll admit upfront that I’m prejudiced here – I haven’t ever voted Conservative, and that isn’t likely to change in this election. I did however find the experience of communicating with Mr. Weston’s campaign a little funny.
I got called around 4pm to ask if I\d support Weston in this election. I usually at least ask some questions – and in the last election I had a long conversation with the Conservative candidate on my pet federal issue – Aboriginal rights and titie. This time I felt like just cutting the crap and I told the caller I wouldn’t be supporting Weston at all.
I figured that was the end of it, but it wasn’t. An hour later I got a call back from a call centre asking if I supported Weston. Intrigued. I took the bait and asked the caller why I should support John Weston. She didn’t really know. SHe pointed me to his website, which I have also done and said I should look there for more information. Then I asked her why she liked Weston. She said that she couldn’t really answer that question, that she just worked at a call centre and that was that.
So the guy who wants my vote can’t even find people who support him to call me? He has to hire a call centre with people who don’t seem to care one way or another to do his ground work for him? This is a little strange and a little sad. One of the things I enjoy about election campaigns is the rabid support that campaign staff and volunteers exude for their cadidate. It makes for fun sport and often really great conversation. In this case, the whol thing defleated before my eyes. Will John Weston’s campaign call centre continue to call me over and over with dispassionate invitations to visit his website, or am I going to get to talk to someone about the Conservatives change in policy following the residential schools apology?
To be continued I guess.
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I’m working a lot with communities of practice these days, or more precisely, teams and groups that aspire to becoming communities of practice. In seeking to be simple about the process of moving from a group to a deeper community, I’ve been designing meetings using this map, to ensure that we give equal weight to work, relationships and co-learning. In my experience, when we do that we set the conditions for a group to become more cohesive and to discover new learning and emergent solutions to the issues on which they are working. This is a design tool, a map to help us keep what’s important in mind. Within each of these three domains are a plethora of practices and tools, and all of these need to be applied wisely, but I am finding this 30,000 foot view useful.
Work
Of course the reason for meeting is to do work. Getting clear on this is important, and I use several different maps for helping groups come to clairty about the work they need to do. My favourite at the moment is what we call the chaordic stepping stones, which is a logical procession of moving from need to structure and practice by anchoring everything we are doing in what is needed at the moment. Gaining clarity on what our work is is important.
Tools for gaining clarity on work include design tools like the diamond of participation, the chaordic stepping stones and other project planning tools that invite clairty about questions and harvest insights back into the team’s work.
Relationships
For groups to be more than just collections of individuals, they need to focus on their relationships. Relationships are the glue that keeps work sustainable. When we pay attention to how we are together it creates the conditions for our work to excel over the long term. Teams or communities that have to focus on toxic, competitive or unhelpful relationships spend too much energy caught in conflict and difference and can’t get real work done. At the outset of working with a team or community of practice, it’s important to identify relationships as a key capacity leading to innovation, excellence or success. And when things go sideways, having solid relationships in place ensures that hte group can find a way out quickly and effectively.
Tools to support good relationships include using participatory and inclusive processes like World Cafe or Open Space Technology and spending time listening to one another’s stories and perspectives. A list of principles like these ones help groups focus on what is important in the container of their work. Good process matters..
Co-learning
If an individual or a group is wanting to become innovate or to think or practice its way to another level of work, learning is essential. At a personal level, cultivating curiosity is critical, so that individuals enter work, practice and conversations with questions that guide their participation in an endeavour. Conceiving of these as a learning journey is very helpful in this regard.
Beyond individual learning, collective learning or co-learning is the fastest way to breathroughs. Engaging in collaborative inquiry, co-presencing and co-realizing a la Otto Scharmer’s Theory U is important to keep a group on the edge of its own learning. Groups need to practice fearlessness to try to embrace new ideas and new ways of doing things.
Tools to support this work include learning journeys, appreciative inquiry, co-presencing and ongoing high level conversation about what a team is learning – a meta-level process.
Alive in the intersecations
The intersection of work and relationships results in one feeding other and leasd to sustainability in the kinds of endeavours one is undertaking, especially when the going gets tough. At the intersection of work and co-learning is innovative thinking that helps to drive work to new levels. At the intersection of co-learning and relationships is where a group comes to see itself as more than just a team, and learns new ways of being together and new forms of connection that serve the greater purpose.
And of course at the centre of it all is the possibility of community, arising out of a balanced approach to all three domains.
To give this model a test run, think of a number of groups you are currently involved in and think about what you hunger for in them. It’s likely that you are paying attention to just one or two of these domains, and that the missing one contains the thing that you hunger for.
I realize some of these concepts may be unfamiliar, or couched in strange language, but the idea is pretty simple: do what you can to pay attention to an dbalance these three factors and you can set the groundwork for a group to meet in a way that helps it evolve into a community of practice.
I would love to hear reports of how this map describes your territory.
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I have a stack of books I am working my way through this summer, and they are all written by friends. I think this is pretty remarkable actually. From the top down, here is what’s on my reading table:
- Finding the Sweet Spot by Dave Pollard. This one just arrived this evening, although I read a proof that Dave sent along. It’s typical of his writing, and will be a familiar tome for regular readers of his blog, How To Save The World. The book outlines a path for creating a life of sustainable work and enterprise using his well developed model of natural entrepreneurship. It’s a brilliant, accessible and portable guide to saving your own ass and the world along with it.
- The Return of King Arthur by Diana Durham. Diana was with us at the Art of Hosting stewards gathering in Carleton Nova Scotia this summer, working with her partner Jon to make a film about some of the work we are doing. Diana’s book is a deep exploration of the powerful myths and archetypes of self-knowledge and transformation. She goes far into the western European tradition and to show the essential pathways on the journey to mastery. It’s an incredible book.
- Howe Sounds, an anthology of Bowen Island writing. My home island is known in Canada for being a haven for writers and this anthology, published way back in 1994 showcased a number of them including Nick Bantock, Robert Bringhurst, Victor Chan and Jim Kearny. A few current friends are anthologized here too including Brad Ovenell-Carter (wriiing about bread, about which he an I are passionate) and Julie Ovenell-Carter who is known as a travel writer and who contributed a poem writtne for her young daughter.
- Almost Green by my friend and neighbour James Glave. James has written a book that is both deadly serious and achingly funny about the middle class grasping towards sustainability. The book charts his journey to build the most ecologically sustainable sturcture possible – what turns out to be an eco-shed studio space. Along the way he talks about the economics of sustainability and why the middle classes in North America are destined to remain almost green. The book is honest and changes very few name to protect the guilty. When it was released in July, Islanders kept popping into the bookstore just to see if they were in it. If you want a taste of James phenomenal writing, download his ebook on deer hunting, Buck The System.
- Teaching an Anthill to Fetch by Stephen Joyce. Stephen sent me this book a while ago and then I ended up meeting him at an Art of Hosting we did in Cochrane, Alberta in June. The book is a how to guide to developing collaborative intellegence in the workplace and goes through anumber of tools that meaders, team members and managers can easily adopt to begin their learning about leveraging collaborative intellegence. It’s accessible and it also points in many directions and invites readers to go deeper. A very practical introduction to the field.
- Open Space Technology: A User’s Guide by Harrison Owen. This is the third edition of Harrison’s guide and it’s updated with several new pieces about action planning, and wupporting the client. The community has had a bigger hand in this version than in previous versions and Harrison has gathered the wisdom that makes sense and recast it in his amicable style. This is really a classice in the field of facilitation methodology. It’s dead simple to use and is really all you need to set up and run an Open Space meeting.
- Hippie Chick Reunion by Kathryn Barber. Yet another Art of Hosting companion, I met Kathryn in Florida in May and this book lay at the bottom of my suitcase for a couple of months before Kathryn prodded me to read it. On the surface it is a story about a group of women reuniting in 2001 to celebrate the protagonist’s 50th birthday. They were a wild bunch back in the day, and their memories are vividly relived. Under the surface though Kathryn has written a parable for social evolution, and the book is highly indebted to Ken Wilber’s integral models and Don Becks Spiral Dynamics as it weaves the worldviews of the characters together in a dynamic tale.
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I awoke this morning and read two scary articles courtesy of the terror of my RSS feeder. First, Dave Pollard counted down the order in which his domino theory of outright planetary collapse may unfold. Then, I read Andrew Simms article on why we only have 100 months left before reaching the tipping point for runaway climate change.
Neither of these scenarios are unfamiliar me, but something about waking up this morning and reading them straight off got my attention. I started thinking about what to do and started reflecting on some of the things that I am already doing.
There are levels on which we work and live as a human being. From the personal to the cosmic, we live nested in spheres of influence and connections that sustain us. So here is my thumbnail take on what we can do at different levels. While I aspire to these, and practice many of them, I’m not perfect, which is why the first one makes sense.
Personal
- Practice meditation or personal inquiry so that you have the wits to handle massive change that lies beyond your control. If you are the kind of person that completely loses it whenever the power goes off you have work to do. Meditation and inquiry also generates compassion for yourself and others, which is a key capacity.
- Erase your debt, get out of the credit economy.
- Wean yourself as much as possible off of products and services that you don’t need and that contribute to waste, carbon emissions and debt.
- Choose wisely how you spend your money. Invest in local food and food producers and in local businesses to strengthen the economy around you.
- Grow your own food, and learn how to take care of your body, your home and your things.
- Do not be a passive consumer of anything, including ideas and entertainment.
- Do what you can. ASk for help. Work with others.
- Think about your work and what you are being trained for. Euan put me on to an old George Monbiot piece on this.
Family
- If you have children in your family, don’t send them to school. Investigate alternatives that will raise them up as learners, able to adopt to change rather than fixed in old knowledge and old paradigms. Help your children participate in your community and help your community understand that the place for children and youth is ANYWHERE, not locked away for seven hours a day in schools.
- Families are an economy of scale bigger than one. It makes sense to work together in learning about your home and community, growing food and looking after one another.
- Use the family relationships as a practice ground for working with relationships. Apply what you learn there to working with others.
Community
- Work with others to meet common needs. For example, start up a community shared agriculture program to enhance food security.
- Learn how to work together well. Learn good processes, and be conscious about how you are with others.
- Offer what you can and ask for what you need.
- Participate in local affairs and in what people in your community are doing to sustain positive futures for yourselves.
- Make meetings count. Especially if you have to travel, then make sure that what you are doing is spending your time, carbon emissions and money wisely. There might come a time when meeting to set good relationships and exchange good ideas is a thing of the past.
Scales beyond
- Andrew Simms has a god line in his 100 months piece: “the government must lead.” If climate change is the issue, governments must lead in setting the kinds of targets, incentives and influence that the market needs to make alternative possible. It cannot be up to us alone to tend our victory gardens and turn off our lights. Governments at all levels must take responsibility for how the influence or don’t influence the environment that makes it possible to change. In Canada, our government is not doing anything meaningful to mitigate climate change. So either I could run for office, or vote for someone who will. In the meantime, I can continue to practice personally in defiance of the mainstream economic model that is killing us.
- Writing about and practicing these kinds of strategies does have the effect of tipping the collective consciousness. When it comes to radical changes, individuals lead, and governments follow, sometimes very far behind. Global corporations are the last to change most of the time. Local governments and local business change first. Support those shifts.
Above all, don’t lose heart. If you lose heart you become a significant part of the problem. If you withdraw, you become a burden on the system, and worse if you refuse to change, you continue to give a tacit mandate for the status quo to continue, if only to meet your needs. If anything, these doomsday scenarios are useful for throwing into relief the kinds of daily choices that we make. Above all, act with consciousness in what you are doing. Consider the consequences and actions and let people know about strategies that work.
That’s what I’m learning these days.