{"id":2866,"date":"2010-07-31T09:12:13","date_gmt":"2010-07-31T17:12:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/?p=2866"},"modified":"2010-07-31T09:12:13","modified_gmt":"2010-07-31T17:12:13","slug":"simplest-ground-rules","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/simplest-ground-rules\/","title":{"rendered":"Simplest ground rules?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Like \u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.johnniemoore.com\/blog\/archives\/002550.php\">Johnnie Moore<\/a> I don&#8217;t generally set ground rules when I facilitate a meeting.  \u00a0For most meetings, it&#8217;s demeaning and it tends to enforce the authority of the facilitator to act as a judge rather than as a host for the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>The odd time there are meetings in which the tension is explosive and if necessary I do this simple exercise with a group:<\/p>\n<p>1. Invite each person to reflect on these two questions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>How do you want to be spoken to by others in this meeting?<\/li>\n<li>How do you want others to listen to you in this meeting?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>2. Break into groups to compare these relfections and bring one or two as operating principles back to the whole.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, it&#8217;s <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/The_Golden_Rule\">the Golden Rule.<\/a> What I want for myself, I should also want for others.  \u00a0It&#8217;s a useful exercise for focusing us on mindful conversation, while at the same time giving the group a quick thing to work on together, and not being prescriptive in our rules of behaviour.  \u00a0 By definition, the ground rules are already owned.<\/p>\n<p>(Incidentally, the most common answers to these questions are things like &#8220;don&#8217;t shout at me, don&#8217;t interrupt me, hear what I am saying, don&#8217;t blame me.  \u00a0Of course it is easier to want these things than to do these things, but the group can find more skillfulness if these principles are made explicit.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Like \u00a0Johnnie Moore I don&#8217;t generally set ground rules when I facilitate a meeting. \u00a0For most meetings, it&#8217;s demeaning and it tends to enforce the authority of the facilitator to act as a judge rather than as a host for the conversation. The odd time there are meetings in which the tension is explosive and if necessary I do this simple exercise with a group: 1. Invite each person to reflect on these two questions: How do you want to be spoken to by others in this meeting? How do you want others to listen to you in this meeting? &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false},"categories":[22,19,6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2866","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-collaboration","category-conversation","category-facilitation"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/piBp1-Ke","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2866","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2866"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2866\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2867,"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2866\/revisions\/2867"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2866"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2866"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.chriscorrigan.com\/parkinglot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2866"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}